You’ve read about it and talked to other guys who say the prostate orgasm is the most mind-blowing experience they’ve ever had. You want one, and no doubt, you have a lot of questions about the experience – relax! I’m here to help you.
In this article I will talk about the foolproof method to experience a prostate orgasm. I will also give you some tools and techniques to arouse your prostate.
The best toys for an intense prostate orgasm
Are you ready to explore this new territory?
Prostate stimulation is a way to increase the sensation of pleasure, and it can have some great health benefits too!
Whether you want to achieve more intense orgasms, or release toxins from your body, massaging the prostate is something to consider in your solo or partnered anal play.
But let’s start with the basics.
What is the prostate?
Also known as the P-spot, it is a walnut-sized gland present in the male reproductive system. It produces a milky fluid that combines with sperm during ejaculation. The gland is surrounded by very sensitive nerve endings, so massaging it produces a very pleasurable sensation, and intense full-body orgasms can be achieved.
What is a prostate massage?
It basically consists of stimulating the P-spot directly. The prostate responds to firm, repetitive pressure.
The massage is sometimes called prostate milking because it stimulates the movement of the fluid produced by the gland.
One method of achieving this involves stimulating the gland by inserting a finger into the rectum and massaging it. Another method is similar, and involves inserting a prostate massager into the rectum to stimulate the gland. Either of these two methods can be performed alone or with a partner.
The third option involves inserting a penis into the partner’s rectum.
How often should you massage the prostate? You can do it daily or even twice a day if you wish.
Unless you have health problems such as prostatitis that require regular drainage, there is no standard recommendation.
What does a prostate orgasm feel like?
Although everyone experiences it differently, there are common factors that can adequately describe what you can expect from this experience.
Men who have experienced it on several occasions tell that it is a full-body experience.
It is not limited to the genital region, but radiates outward involving even the arms and legs.
Like an orgasm coming from the penis, it comes in spasms and can occur over and over again.
Some guys experience super orgasms, which come in rapid, continuous surges that make the body shudder.
Others say the experience is quite localized and feels like the beginning of a penile orgasm happening over and over again.
And who would say no to that?
Another thing to keep in mind is that when you get a prostate massage, you may feel like you have to pee.
And because your anus is full, you may feel like it’s going to burst as well.
Neither will happen, but to be on the safe side, it’s advisable to go to the bathroom and take a shower before the experience to make it as worry-free and pleasurable as possible.
What are the benefits of prostate massage ?
I briefly mentioned earlier that prostate massage has some associated health benefits. Regularly stimulating the area can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.
In addition, it can cleanse the gland and even help prevent prostate cancer. These are some of the reasons why proctologists often recommend prostate massage to their patients.
In addition to these physical benefits, prostate orgasms provide a new kind of pleasure.
Instead of having the same orgasms over and over again, this can add a new dimension to your sexual experiences.
How to find the prostate
If you have a penis, you have a prostate. The gland is about 2 cm wide and has a firm feel with a slight elasticity. It should be easy to find as it is like a bulge in the rectum. During arousal, it swells and becomes firmer, making it even easier to locate.
This gland is comparable to the female G-spot in that it triggers intense orgasms, and how far inside the body it is located.
If you are new to inserting objects into the rectum, you may prefer to start by locating the prostate externally. Although this method is not as direct, it can be an effective way to become familiar with the gland. To find it externally, press between the anus and the testicles. You should feel a firm lump in this area. Once the gland is located, you can stroke it from the outside with a toy or your fingers.
Note that before inserting anything into the rectum, you will need a quality anal lubricant. Apply some lube to the anus and finger before inserting. I’ll give more information on selecting a good lube later. Once you’ve applied the lube, you’re ready to begin.
To locate the gland internally, you will need to insert your finger 5 to 7 cm into the rectum. The prostate is located on the same side as your belly, below the bladder.
Most men will find it sooner, but everyone is different and for some, the gland is higher up and requires deeper penetration. Others don’t have fingers long enough to reach their own prostate and will need a toy to stimulate it.
To locate it, start by inserting your finger into the anus and pressing on the front wall of the rectum (toward the stomach). Keep going a little further and pressing until you find it.
When you press on the gland, you will probably feel the urge to urinate. This is a totally normal response.
If you were able to find your prostate with these simple techniques, congratulations!
If not, don’t worry you can try with a prostate stimulator which will surely reach it.
Prostate massage preparation
These steps will help you prepare and make it more likely that you will achieve a prostate orgasm.
- Keep an open mind: The biggest obstacle to having a mind-blowing prostate orgasm is mental resistance. You may think you can’t, or don’t feel comfortable with anal penetration. If it’s your own discomfort that’s holding you back, experiment more externally.
- Cleanliness: If hygiene is something that worries you, take a shower and clean the external area of the anus. For the inner area, nothing better than an anal douche.
- Gentleness: You’re going to be working with extremely sensitive parts, so you need to go as gentle as possible. If you hurt yourself at first, you won’t want to try it again.
- Start alone: This will help you get familiar with all the equipment, and know what you like before sharing the experience with someone else.
- Start (very) slowly: If your rectum is uncharted territory, to be successful you must be very relaxed and go very slowly. The anal sphincter muscles are extremely elastic, but it takes a while relaxing and opening up.
- Preliminaries: Arousal is key to achieving your goal. When you are aroused, your sphincter loosens, and the gland swells.
- Lubricant: The rectum is not self-lubricating, so you will need to provide lubrication. Using a quality lubricant will protect sensitive tissues and enhance your pleasure.
How to perform prostate massage
There really is no one right way to massage the gland.
Some men enjoy a quick thrusting motion, while others prefer more direct pressure on the gland.
Feel free to experiment. You should do (or ask your partner to do) whatever you like and feels right.
Generally, the prostate usually prefers firm, repetitive pressure. Start gentle and increase the intensity as you go along, as this area can be very sensitive.
Use the fingers
Fingers are perfect to start with prostate massage. Although I always recommend experimenting with both fingers and toys.
Keep in mind that it may take some time to find the stimulation you prefer, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
Here are some techniques you can start with:
- Circular motions: For this technique, move your fingers in circles around the gland. You can make large or small circles.
- Stroking: The next technique you can try is gentle stroking. Make the “come here” gesture with your index finger while stroking your prostate.
- Pressure: The prostate gland is stimulated by pressing on it. Start gently and apply more pressure as you see fit.
The problem with doing it with your fingers is that they are not as efficient as toys. First of all, fingers get tired after a while, unlike toys. A prostate orgasm can take time, and many people don’t have the stamina to do it with fingers. Another drawback to using just fingers is that the angle can be uncomfortable if you stimulate yourself.
But I have good news! A prostate massager can make your job easier.
Use a Prostate Stimulator
As they are designed specifically for anal use, the massagers have a handle or a flared base. During anal sex, always use toys designed for the anus, otherwise the toy can easily get lost.
Prostate stimulators are available in many different shapes and sizes, but each type is designed to touch the prostate. They have a firm design that presses against the gland and you can tilt them for more concentrated pleasure. If you don’t know which toy to choose we recommend you take a look to these Aneros prostate massage toys.
Another great advantage of using a tool is the vibration. Fingers don’t vibrate, so this additional element may be just what you need to climax.
Before inserting the toy, be sure to apply plenty of lubricant to both the tool and your anus. Insert it with the curve upward, toward your stomach.
Then you can try one of these techniques:
- Push: Once inserted, you can gently push it in and out in any way you prefer. Some men prefer to activate the vibration and leave it there instead of moving it.
- Hands free: Or you can let the toy stay put and squeeze and loosen the muscles of the anus. This can cause the toy to hit your prostate while flexing your sphincter.
- External pressure: Another option you can try is to add external pressure to the prostate while the toy is inserted. While it will be too intense for some, others will like it.
Using one of these toys can be a great addition to penile masturbation. It’s also fun to use during sex.
Your imagination is the limit! So get creative.
When you have been stimulating the prostate for a while, you will notice that your penis begins to excrete a white fluid. This is where the term “milking” comes from.
This fluid is the main component of ejaculation, without the sperm. If you are emptying the prostate for health reasons, you can concentrate on this for a while to make sure the gland is cleansed.
If you’re just looking for pleasure, this fluid is a sign that you’re close to orgasm – a sign that you’re on the right track!
The most accessible positions
Most men experiment with lying on their backs, but if you have trouble finding or stimulating the prostate in this position, you can try these other positions:
- Legs up: Some men find it easier to find it when they raise their legs close to their chest. If you are not very flexible, you can try bending your knees in this position.
- Face down: It goes without saying that lying face down leaves the anus in a much more accessible position. This makes it easier to access for people who are playing with a partner.
- Sideways: Still having trouble? You may have better luck if you lie on your side. This can make it easier for both you and your partner to access the prostate.
How to get a prostate orgasm
Now that you know the basics about prostate massage, and you’ve tried it until you find what you like best, it’s time to get to the good stuff:
Having a prostate orgasm.
Getting one takes patience and practice. Some men say they don’t get it the first time. But remember that every man is different. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be to climax.
Plus, these techniques can help:
Earlier I mentioned that when you find your prostate and press on it, you may experience a sudden urge to urinate. Some men stop pressing when they feel this, for fear of urinating. However, you must keep pressing to reach climax. Instead of relieving the need to urinate, go ahead and see if you can reach orgasm that way.
Another way is to masturbate as you normally would, push yourself to the limit and stop. Do this a few times before you start any prostate stimulation. This will help get the blood flowing to the area, keep you aroused and increase your chances of having a mind-blowing release. You can also do this between prostate massages if you need a break.
While prostate stimulation can be a lot of fun on its own, why not increase the pleasure? You can masturbate with your penis while your partner massages your gland, or do it during oral sex.
Using a prostate stimulator during vaginal sex is another idea to try with your partner.
Strengthen your Kegel muscles
Your Kegel muscles control genital blood flow and urination. Adding some Kegel exercises to your daily routine can strengthen your pelvic floor and give you more intense prostate orgasms.
Try an external orgasm
I briefly mentioned earlier that you can stimulate your gland from the outside. It’s less likely to climax this way, but you can. You may be one of the lucky few who has more luck with an external approach than an internal one. And that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, everyone is different.
So, if you find that orgasm doesn’t happen with your fingers or the toy, try pressing on the gland from the outside to see if you can climax that way.
This only applies to people exploring this practice with a partner.
Whether you are the giver or the receiver, communication is essential at every step of the experience.
Make sure your partner is on board with all the practices. Ask him or her what he or she likes and what you can improve. And be fluid in communicating your own sexual needs.
Anal play – and especially with the prostate – is extremely intimate.
I recommend that you discuss boundaries and what you’re comfortable with before you explore this territory physically.
And once you’ve explored it, talk honestly about it afterwards.
Haven’t been able to get there?
Despite all the advice in this article, you still may not be enjoying prostate orgasm.
Again, this doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong or wrong with you. You may just need a little more time to familiarize yourself with this new part of your body.
Keep experimenting to find what feels good to you. And if you don’t find it, that’s okay too. Not everyone is the same.
Now you have all the information you need to regularly stimulate your own prostate for health and pleasure. Do it even if you don’t reach prostate orgasm – it’s worth it!