Best Positions For Prostate Massage

The prostate, or P-spot, as it is often called, is a small muscular gland located in front of the rectum that produces the seminal fluid found in ejaculation. It helps propel semen from the penis. It’s also surrounded by nerve endings that can feel great when touched. Curious? Read on to learn how to find this anal play wonder backdoor and bring your body to multiple orgasms.

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How to get started with the prostate massage

A little preparation can help make the experience a good one, whether you’re flying solo or on the giving or receiving end.

If you are the receiving partner


You’ll want to be as relaxed and excited as possible, because it will make the experience easier and more enjoyable.

The whole poop comes out of the butt thing gives some people a case of heebie-jeebies even when it’s their own butt. Remedy this by giving yourself a shower and paying a little extra attention there to get it spotlessly clean. Some people like to use an enema before butt play, but it’s not necessary.

Use the bath before you start. Prostate stimulation can make you feel like you need to urinate, and anal penetration can cause the sensation of needing to defecate. Even though you won’t actually do it either, you may get concerned that it may interfere and ruin the fun. Knowing that your bladder and bowels are empty can help.

Getting used to the sensation of having your prostate gland touched may also help. Practice with an anal sex toy, such as a butt plug, or with your fingers. Be sure to set the mood so you’re turned on and ready for action. Light candles, watch porn, or engage in some good masturbation or foreplay to get you there.

Finally, be sure to lubricate very well. Applying a water-based lubricant will allow for easier penetration and make it easier to slide in if you stimulate the prostate externally.

If you are the giving partner

Cleanliness and safety are a must, even for the donor. Cut and file your fingernails to help avoid scratching or tearing the delicate skin in and around the anus. Wash your hands thoroughly, even if you plan to use a condom over your finger to penetrate your partner. Yes, you can do this if it makes you feel more comfortable. For added comfort, tuck cotton balls inside the condom or glove. You can also start the party together in the shower, which serves as foreplay and leaves you all nice and clean for the big show.

Prostate massage techniques to try

You will probably need to try a few different movements and experiment with speed and pressure to find what feels best. Here are some techniques to try, whether you’re using fingers or toys.

Massage prostate with your fingers

  • Come here. Gently insert your lubricated index finger into your anus and bend your finger upward in a “come here” motion toward your navel. Keep repeating the motion while gradually increasing your speed as pleasure increases.
  • Doorbell. Rest your fingertip against the outside of the prostate and press gently as you would ring the doorbell. Mix it up using different pressure or holding down the key for longer and longer intervals to find what works. You can also use the ringer technique when penetrating the anus.
  • Going around. Use your fingertip and run it around the prostate, circling the entire perimeter of the gland. Change the pressure and speed and continue with the combo that feels best, allowing an intense pleasure to build up.
  • Simulated Vibration. Any movement that feels good can be sped up to the point where it feels like a vibrator. This can be a little hard on the wrist after a while, so it’s best to save this kind of speed when the prostate orgasm is near.

With a prostate massager, strap-on or other sex toy.

If you play with sex toys, you can really mix it up by playing with the different vibration settings, as well as pressure and depth.

  • Pressure. Controlling pressure when using a toy is easier, especially when you’re playing alone. Try pressing the toy against the prostate with more or less pressure until you find your sweet spot.
  • Depth. Depth is another area where toys win, as reaching can make it difficult to go deep, if that’s what you crave. Try different sized anal toys or get a longer one that you can insert as deep as you want.
  • Vibrations. You can buy prostate massagers that offer multiple speed and pulse settings. Play with the different settings to find your preference. Turn up the vibrations as you get closer to orgasm.
  • Sensation. Some prostate massagers have an external stimulator attached to give your perineum some sweet love while the other end penetrates.

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Prostate massage positions to try

Different positions can facilitate prostate reach and increase pleasure. These positions work for external and internal prostate stimulation, alone and with a partner.

Face down prostate massage position

To massage your prostate in this position on your own:

  • Lie on your stomach.
  • Bring your arm behind you and rest it on your back.
  • Reach your perineum or anus with your finger.

To get your prostate massaged in this position by your partner:

  • Lie on your stomach with your arms at your sides and your legs slightly apart.
  • Have them sit next to you on the side most comfortable for them.
  • Have them gently massage your prostate gland.

Legs up prostate massage position

To stimulate your prostate in this position on your own :

  • Lie on your back.
  • Lift your knees up toward your chest as close as you comfortably can.
  • Use one arm to hold your legs in place.
  • Use your other hand to reach your anus.

To get your prostate stimulated in this position by your partner:

  • Lie on your back.
  • Pull your knees up toward your chest, holding them in place with both hands.
  • Have them kneel in front of you and massage your prostate gland internally, externally, or both simultaneously.

On your side, one leg to your chest

To milk your prostate in this position on your own

  • Lie on your side.
  • Bring your outside leg toward your chest.
  • Reach your hand to your anus.

To get your prostate milked in this position by your partner:

  • Lie on your side.
  • Bring your outside leg toward your chest.
  • Have them sit behind you to reach your anus.

Doggy prostate massage position

To massage your prostate in this position on your own:

  • Get on all fours.
  • Bring your arm between your legs or around your back to reach your anus.

To get your prostate massaged in this position by your partner:

  • Get on all fours.
  • Have them kneel behind you to reach your anus.

What about “milking”?

Milking the prostate refers to the act of massaging the prostate until fluid comes out. The fluid, which is milky, hence the term, can come out while stimulating the prostate. Officially, the fluid is called prostatic fluid, which is basically ejaculating without the sperm.

Got milk? Then keep at whatever you’re doing because it’s a sign that you’re getting close. Stroking the penis at the same time can take it to another level of pleasure and get you there faster.

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Rick Wagshul

Rick Wagshull is a teacher by training and a sexuality educator and consultant with more than 5 years experience. He has a special interest in facilitating sexuality education for LGBT+ community and is now working on his dissertation, for which he is researching the sexual satisfaction of aging adults in same-sex relationships. In his private life he is a bisexual man that loves sex and experimenting new sensations. He enjoys testing and reviewing sex toys and accessories. In his spare time he loves to help men improve their sex life sharing his experience via